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How to be Chronically Unhappy

Just in case you were wondering, there are some surefire ways to guarantee that you will be chronically unhappy.

Depressed Man

7 Surefire Ways to be Chronically Unhappy                          Photo Credit: Phillie Casablanca

Tamara Star shares 7 Habits of Chronically Unhappy People  in an article in the Huffington Post. I can confirm from my ministry with hundreds of people that these characteristics are unequivocally true. They’ll make you miserable in no time at all.

So if your goal is to be depressed, despondent, and glum, try these can’t-miss tips:

Believe that life is hard. Of course life is hard, but this is talking about a default belief system that hard is bad. I’ve discussed this here and here.

Refuse to trust others. The reality is that most people are good and trustworthy. But unhappy people assume they are bad and untrustworthy.

Focus on what’s wrong rather than on what’s right. Sure there is a lot wrong in the world, but seriously, there’s a lot more that is right. Unhappy people can find the negative in anything.

Negatively compare yourself to everyone. Yep, everyone. Decide you can never measure up, and sure enough, you won’t.

Strive to control everyone and everything. After all, you are doing such a good job in your own life. That vice-grip control is guaranteed to make you miserable.

Worry and fret about the future. After all it’s the one thing you can’t control. And heaven knows all that might possibly go wrong.

Gossip and complain about everyone you know. And those you don’t know.

Do these things and I can assure you that you’ll be miserable, depressed, despondent, and just plain unhappy.

Of course, if you don’t like it there, consider behaving just the opposite and see what happens…


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