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Do You Hide Your Brokenness?

What are the strategies you use to hide your brokenness? Come on now… You know you have more than your share of broken places. Wounds that you cover up with habits, addictions, sinful attitudes, lies…

Problem is, most of us hide our brokenness. We make excuses. We make sure our hair and make-up are done. We avoid the people who rub us the wrong way or make us feel inadequate. We enhance our stories in our favor, while demeaning those we are in conflict with. Anything to hide our brokenness.

Would you consider another way? The Japanese have an art form called Kintsugi, where broken pottery is mended with lacquer resin dusted or mixed with powdered gold, silver, or platinum. The idea is to treat both the breakage and repair as part of the history of an object, rather than something to disguise. In fact, the repair (as well as the brokenness) is literally illuminated.

Perhaps rather than hiding our brokenness in shame, we need to illuminate it. I do this by telling my story when appropriate. Recently I met with a new discipleship mentee. The first thing she wanted to know was my story. Rather than creating shame, it gave me credibility. She knew that I had experienced pain and not only survived, but thrived. It made her willing to trust me. Had I tried to pretend that my life was flawless, the result would have been very different.

So would you consider illuminating your brokenness? Not to glorify it, but to share your history? Let me know how it works.