There are many reasons people don’t heal, but one of biggest is belief in “Christian myths.” The first of these is the myth that “God wants me to be happy!” It may come as a surprise to you, but God doesn’t really care if you’re happy or not.
Woo! Blasphemy, you say? Nope, it’s true. He really doesn’t care if you’re happy. So what does he want? God wants us to be filled with joy (John 15:11, John 16:24) and to be conformed to the image of Jesus Christ (Rom. 8:29). When we seek him first, he fills us with joy.
Seeking happiness, on the other hand, causes people to be stupid. To “do” stupid. It causes them to enter into unhealthy relationships, to make unwise choices, to sin. I have a friend who was unhappy in her marriage and sought solace in an Internet relationship, claiming that after all, it was God’s will for her to be happy. I knew she had hit stupid when she declared they were going to get married. Just as soon they both got divorces. And they were going to meet soon. Really? I’ve known people to quit good jobs because they weren’t happy. To refuse to honor their parents through caregiving because it didn’t make them happy. To leave good churches because they weren’t happy.
Maturing Christians don’t seek happiness. They persevere in obedience, even in the tough times. And the result – sooner or later – is joy. The joy of becoming conformed to the image of Jesus, who for the joy set before him, endured the cross (Heb. 12:2).